We face many battles in life. Sometimes we win; sometimes we lose. It’s a fact of life. Winning always brings a feeling of euphoria. Losing, which in reality is more than just an antithesis of winning, can be like an open wound that takes a long time to heal – if it heals at all.
But, as someone said, life goes on. Reluctantly we trudge on, and grin and bear it like everyone else.
We learned about the concept of winning and losing at an early age. In school we learned the value of winning. Winners always earn respect and admiration from everybody. Winners are always awarded. With pride they take home the trophies and medals coveted by everyone else. Losers, on the other hand, bear the shame, and are quickly forgotten. Maybe even laughed at.
I was one of those overachievers in school. Sadly, the more awards I reaped, the lesser the number of true friends I kept. Jealousy and envy made sure that I lost all but the few genuine friends who really cared about me, the person. At such a young age, I learned that the top could be a very lonely place indeed.
Winning made me giddy with excitement and happiness. I feared losing so much, I had always strived to win. I didn’t win all the time, of course. But when I lost, I would always retreat into my gloom and doom and feel so sorry for myself. It wasn’t just a lousy feeling, you know. To me, it felt like being scorned by the rest of the world. How I hated feeling that way, but I just couldn’t help it.
However, as I grew older, I realized that whereas striving to win can always bring out the best of our abilities, it is not so valuable a teacher as losing is.
If you really think about it, only losing can teach us to be truly humble. Only losing can make us reflect on what really matters most to us. And above all, losing builds our character in so many ways that winning can’t.
In the end, it’s not so much about how much we have won or lost, but how we have performed in this so-called game of life.
Let us run and finish the race with joy and thanksgiving in our hearts, genuinely grateful for the life that has been granted to us, and most of all, never, ever forget that there is ALWAYS someone on the sideline cheering us on.