Do you fear change in your life, habits, attitude, even the people you live or work with? Or do you embrace change with enthusiasm, eager and hopeful for what’s going to happen next?
|I will never be the same when I take this path|
Change is inevitable. The world around us changes all the time. We change, too, even if we sometimes do not discern it ourselves. Just take a look at your photo taken a year or two ago. You just don’t look the same as before. Not just in terms of the extra wrinkly spots or newly sprouted white hairs, but in the way you think, feel, or react to situations. Although the previous year may seem too short, so many of life’s events that transpired during that year has changed you into the person you are now.
I see my daughter growing right before my eyes – all five years of her – and I just marvel at how fast she has changed from a helpless infant to a zestful preschooler. How much more different would she be in another five years’ time?
Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better. (King Whitney Jr.)
I hate to admit it, but I get fearful that things may get worse. This makes me fear change. I used to be a very optimistic person. But my Dad’s death made me realize that yes, things do get worse: not recovering from illness being one of them. I do not fear so much for myself, but I do get fearful for my own family – their safety and health, overall well-being, and happiness. Sometimes I imagine the worst scenario, and in my mind I try to brace myself. It is perhaps a coping mechanism that I have developed while recovering from my grief with my Dad.
But now I want to let go of these fears. Most of the time, the worst of our worries do not happen. If it happened to the other person, it doesn’t mean that it’s going to happen to you as well. Planes crash, ships sink, and what do you know, even buildings get hit by commercial jetliners – so why should you worry that you’d be on one of them when the inevitable happens? My point is, worrying about things beyond our control is just plain pointless. Some things just happen without our direct interference. There is really nothing we can do about them, except to rid ourselves of needless worries about things that may or may not happen.
I just don’t want to be hopeful, but confident as well. I want to rise up to the challenges while striving to make things better not just for myself but for my family as well.
Change is the constant, the signal for rebirth, the egg of the phoenix. (Christina Baldwin)
The person who is too fearful, too unwilling to take risks, and who does not trust in his/her abilities to cope with change will not be able to realize their full potential. And that is a life not well spent.
I do not want to live below my potential. I do not want to live in the end regretting that I did not do things because I was too afraid. I want to rise to the challenge. Who cares if I make mistakes? This is my life, dammit, and if I don’t at least try, I will never get anywhere. The comfort zone never allows for growth. I will have to get out of it if I want to expand and grow as an individual.
If we choose to believe so, change has the potential to make us stronger. I say, bring on the change.